Thankfully, the only semblance I got to an egg was the omelette in my nasi pattaya :) So basically I was spared of any unfortunate incidents.. Phew..
Yesterday I met up with my old classmate, C.. She's studying A-Levels in Taylor's College under a Public Services Department (PSD) scholarship.. It's been months since we last spoke to each other and I sort of 'forgot' to wish her "Happy Birthday" (her birthday was Feb 18) because I lost her hp number.. So when she SMSed me on my birthday (gulp), I asked who the sender was (double gulp).. After I knew that it was her, I asked her out for some good old 'mamak' food at our favourite hang out spot..
So there we were, catching up on our lives for the past few months.. She used to be attached to MC, a prominent chess player in the country.. And I was proud to claim that I was their matchmaker.. MC is among the cream of the crop of chess players in Malaysia so I was sort of 'honoured' to be somehow 'related' to him, no matter how insignificant my role was :P
But I emphasize on was proud.. Her whole love story is so complicated that it could double up as a Bollywood movie hands down.. But to cut a long story short, MC turned out to be nothing more than a jerk.. He played around with her feelings and she couldn't have put it in any other way - "He thinks too highly of himself".. Not unlike most of the guys I unfortunately fell for.. So it really changed my perspective on him.. He was no longer the idolized alpha male, but just a slimy sleazeball..
She also told me all about her ex who's trying to rekindle their past relationship.. He's currently studying in the UK and he said he's willing to wait for C.. Awww.. So touching.. Except for the part that he initiated their break up before because it was 'distrupting his studies'.. Hmm..
What is it with men? I know that I've been burnt badly recently, which probably explains my cynical viewpoint on boys.. But in the last 48 hours, I've heard 2 cases - unrelated to C - of guys confessing their 'love' for a girl and yet admitting that they like somebody else at the same time.. What's up with that? Just because a guy is up front and honest about their polygamous ways, does that mean that we girls have to accept them? It must take a lot of guts (and nerve) for guys to be able to confess about it.. True enough, knowing that you're being played is minimally better than not knowing anything about it.. But is that supposed to alleviate the pain?
No woman wants to share what 'belongs' to them, no matter what our religion says.. When you fall in love with someone, it comes in a package.. And that package more or less includes feeling possessive of your loved one.. But in Islam, a guy has the right to marry 4 women, thus the women have no choice but to conform because it is in the capacity of a man to love more than one woman.. And men (theoretically) are able to provide an equally fair share of their love and attention to each woman..
But how soon are we supposed to allow polygamy? Even in marriages, despite being legal, the society nowadays generally frown upon it.. But what about boy-girl relationships? Generally polygamy is normally associated to marriages.. And being a Muslim, provided that it is carried out fairly, it isn't considered as wrong, thus wives are (theoretically) discouraged from disallowing it.. How about boyfriends and girlfriends? Wives have to accept their husbands' 'new additions' just because they're married.. But if the formality of marriage isn't there, does that mean that the girls cannot accept polygamy in their boyfriends?
I know that my arguments sound very chauvinistic.. I'm not saying that I'm among those women who would gladly give away their man for other women.. I must say that amongst women, we constantly compete against each other.. And I have to admit that I'm one of them.. I couldn't possibly imagine life with a man who would have another woman by his side whenever something happens between us.. To me, it sort of makes our relationship less significant, because if anything should occur, instead of putting more importance on handling it, he would simply take the easy way out by turning to the other woman.. That in turn would harbour resentment between me and the other woman.. Which in turn would result in a very tumultuous love triangle.. Or square.. Or pentagon..
I believe that women are fated to be guided and protected by men.. But along the way, you're bound to bump into ogres before finding your knight in shining armour :P
My chalet's network is totally out.. It's been down since last Friday.. I guess I'll have to survive without Internet in my laptop for the next week or so.. I'm using one of the computers in the Resource Centre now.. I hope the problem will somehow miraculously disappear, although I know full well that the only way to do that is to fork out another RM100 or so to buy a new network card :P
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